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Why do people with BPD idealize and devalue?
Idealization can quickly turn into devaluation because there is often no middle ground for a person with BPD. Feeling challenged, threatened, or disappointed can quickly cause them to devalue the people they formerly idealized.
What is it like being in a relationship with someone with BPD?
A romantic relationship with someone with BPD can be, in a word, stormy. It’s not uncommon to experience a great deal of turmoil and dysfunction. However, people with BPD can be exceptionally caring, compassionate, and affectionate. In fact, some people find this level of devotion from a partner pleasant.
What does it mean to have a favorite person with BPD?
To oversimplify, best friends are people you love and count on, but a favorite person is someone you have an emotional dependence on, someone who can “make or break” your day. We wanted to know what having a favorite person means to someone with borderline personality disorder, so we asked our BPD community to share how they define this term.
Why do women with traits of BPD devalue their romantic partners?
In Part One of this blog series, Romantic Devaluation and Idealization In Women With Traits of BPD we explored the reasons why so many women on the spectrum of BPD devalue their romantic partners once the initial honeymoon phase comes to an end. We identified devaluation as the inevitable result of a woman who idealizes her romantic partner.
How can I improve my relationships with BPD?
Cultivate a broad spectrum of relationships in your life. A great relationship practice for people with BPD is cultivating a spectrum of types of relationships you have in your life. Dr. Foreman said it’s important to remember, “some friends are your best friends forever, some people are meant to be occasional friends.”
Should you be shamed for your loved one’s BPD?
No one should be shamed for experiencing either. But if your loved one struggles with borderline personality disorder (BPD), the comparisons can often fall flat. After all, cancer doesn’t manifest in social bonds. Broken legs don’t threaten to kill themselves.