Table of Contents
- 1 How do you politely ask someone their pronouns?
- 2 Is it rude to ask for someone’s pronouns?
- 3 What to say when someone tells you their pronouns?
- 4 Why should I ask for pronouns?
- 5 Can you have no pronouns?
- 6 Is it rude to ask someone if they have pronouns?
- 7 How do you introduce yourself with your name and pronouns?
- 8 How to remind someone without being rude?
How do you politely ask someone their pronouns?
The easiest way to lean into asking someone about their pronouns is to share your own: “Hello, my name is Charlie and I go by ‘he, him, his’ pronouns.”
Is it rude to ask for someone’s pronouns?
Isn’t it rude to ask someone for their pronouns? The more we ask everyone for their pronouns (and state our own pronouns), the more it becomes part of the status quo. Avoid asking only people with what you consider to be an unusual gender presentation as that would be rude and potentially awkward.
What do you say when you don’t know someone’s pronouns?
In practice, you should ask everyone what pronoun they use if you don’t know. When you don’t know someone’s pronouns and can’t ask them, it’s always safe to use the gender-neutral “they” until you hear otherwise.
What to say when someone tells you their pronouns?
Some people go by ‘they’ and ‘them’ pronouns or another set of pronouns or another way of being referred to. However, for most people in this room you’d simply say something like ‘Hi, I’m Lesley and I go by “he” pronouns’ or ‘Hi, I’m Jamie and I go by “she” pronouns’ and then turn to the next person.
Why should I ask for pronouns?
Asking for pronouns can prevent emotional distress from happening, and sets an example of respect. For example, some people may change their pronouns and names based on their personal gender fluidity, and some people may just need to “try something out”. Making space for this is important to be respectful.
How do you respect pronouns?
How to Use Pronouns Respectfully at Work
- “My pronouns are he/him/his.”
- “My pronouns are she/her/hers.”
- “My pronouns are they/them/theirs.” (gender-neutral pronouns)
- “My pronouns are ze/hir/hirs.” (gender-neutral pronouns, pronounced zee/heer/heers)
- “I don’t use pronouns.
Can you have no pronouns?
A person may refrain from using pronouns for many reasons. There may not be a set of pronouns that feels right for that individual. Using no pronouns is a simple adjustment that can have a great impact on a person’s sense of validity within their gender. To start, it may feel like you’re saying the person’s name a lot.
Is it rude to ask someone if they have pronouns?
Asking people for their pronouns should ideally happen in small group situations. If people don’t want to disclose their pronouns, respect their wishes and do not push for them to give a response. You do not have the right to someone’s pronouns if the person is not comfortable discussing them with you.
How do I get rid of pronouns in my emails?
One easy trick: Try using contractions and removing the pronoun on occasion. If you have a standard signature at the end of your email and you correspond with the person often, you might even try dropping the sign-off altogether. Hi! I’m still waiting on the updated numbers from the marketing team.
How do you introduce yourself with your name and pronouns?
When you introduce yourself by saying your name and pronouns, it is an invitation to offer pronouns without nagging someone to come out in that instance. Doing this is opening a door where people can choose to walk in or not. It also activates every person in that conversation to share, if they choose to.
How to remind someone without being rude?
How Do You Remind Someone Without Being Rude? 1 Choose a Medium for Communication. Do the follow up with the recipient through the same communication channel that you used to start the task. If the 2 Reach Out Through Other Means. 3 A Friendly Nudge. 4 Keep Your Tone Polite. 5 Urge for an Answer.