What type of men do borderlines attract?

What type of men do borderlines attract?

Those who have BPD tend to be very intense, dramatic, and exciting. This means they tend to attract others who are depressed and/or suffering low self-esteem. People who take their power from being a victim, or seek excitement in others because their own life is not where they want it to be.

Can a BPD also be a narcissist?

Nearly 40\% of those with borderline personality disorder also have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). A person can have one disorder and traits of the other as well. It helps to understand their similarities and differences.

What personality type attracts women with BPD to men with BPD?

The personality type that seems to most often become entangled in the web of a woman with traits of BPD is a man we often refer to as a nice-guy type. There appears to be an alchemy of sorts that takes place when a woman with traits of BPD and a man with nice-guy traits get together.

What is the difference between BPD and the nice guy type?

But as it turns out, the nice-guy type also has traits that cause him to see the world unrealistically. The woman with traits of BPD may see the world through a lens of negativity, believing that people are less trustworthy than they really are. But the nice-guy type has the opposite bias when it comes to human nature.

What are the traits of borderline personality disorder in relationships?

In most romantic relationships, women with traits of BPD move through an initial phase of idealization. This phase is fueled by an intense drive to achieve emotional intimacy which because of her lack of trust she is then unable to sustain.

What does it feel like to have BPD?

There are different degrees and flavors of BPD, but typically a person with BPD, when they love you, they LOVE YOU, and when they don’t, they definitely don’t. They make it seem like they need you more than they need air to breath, which is a welcome difference to how we normally feel, which is invisible.